The death of a loved one is oftentimes a tragic and painful experience. Only those who have sufficiently prepared for the departure of a beloved can smoothly bid the pain away and transform the disappointment into something positive. However, even most of them cannot move on instantaneously. We believe that there has to be time and space for healing to operate. A wound so deep must be allowed to mend itself naturally, be that amidst a flood of tears every now and then. This is why funeral services are important: it has to take care of everything else but the pain.
Worry about what needs to be worried about
We believe that the ones left behind should mourn for the passing away of their dearly departed. A few days in from that fateful moment, they should be crying, recalling special memories about their family or friend, and sharing stories. They should be paying their respects to the dead, and comforting one another. They should not be distracted by minute and standard matters.
For example, they should not worry about where to hold the wake, or what food to serve during the same, or what flowers to display. They should not be guessing what their loved one would have wanted for his or her clothes, casket or perfume. They should not be thinking of what the theme of the wake should be – whether solemn or festive (as there are those who include merry-making wishes in their wills and testaments). These are matters best left to someone who does not need to grieve, but who understands those who do. We believe that funeral services should not be a concern for someone who has lost a loved one.
A good funeral services provider will make sure that everything runs as smoothly as possible – from the passing away until interment or cremation. For our part, if you so wish, we can handle the movement of the body to the mortuary, the embalming process and the transportation of the body to the place of the wake. We will arrange the room according to your wishes, if any. If you love pink or orange, or both, we will more than gladly find chrysanthemums, asters, tulips or carnations for you. If you wish to have a festive mood during the wake – because we know that you do not want anyone crying or getting sad because of you – we’d be more than willing to comply. We know that all your wishes are meant not just for you, but even more, for the ones you hold dear.
A place and time to cry
Even Greek mythology and classical history tells us of truces in times of war. During these brief periods, arms are leveled, hostilities cease and everyone is given the time to mourn and honor their dead. Were there no such periods, the battlefield would be littered with unidentifiable corpses, the soil watered with blood, and the warriors consumed by pointless bloodlust.
The same runs true for death in this age; it justifies crying and provides a place and time for it. Although there is no war (and hopefully there will be no more), the passing away of a person calls for a pause and a time to reflect. Families, friends and loved ones are beckoned to gather in a particular room, with the remains of their dearly departed, and to spend time together. Prayers are offered, songs are sung, and realizations are made. In the busy and fast-paced age that the world finds itself in today, the death of someone slows everything down to the pace of reality and mortality. The ones left behind learn that not everything lasts in this world.
Let the rain fall
Many of life’s realizations are made on occasion of death. The one who knows that he/she has to go realizes what life really means in his/her waning days. Those who know that they will be left behind, or those who have just been left behind, realize the same thing. Oftentimes, they’ll learn it after the fact. We know, thus, how important funeral services are. It must be delivered at the best possible level to accord respect, dignity and honor to the person who has died, and spare those left behind from useless worries, so they can focus on their contemplation.
This is why funeral services are important. They provide the loved ones left behind the place and time to mourn. With every memory recalled, with every teardrop that falls, the closer they find peace and the courage to let go.